Why you might come across as boring

[newmom2008]

It would seem to me that the encouragement of the depth of thought found in Asian countries probably makes the people more technically and academically proficient.  Conversely, we in USA fire people for being "professional" and "boring" stating that we are "disrupting the working environment" while rewarding those of greater social skill, personality, and popularity.

We are living in the wrong nation if we want to be comfortable and respected for our introverted natures.

I do think its far easier to be introverted, in countries outside of the U.S. My husband (from another country) also mentioned this. He was considered overly extroverted where he's from, but here in the U.S, he feels more normal, as American culture rewards and encourages extroversion.

American employers these days could care less about technical skills, its all about personality and image now. This also contributes to problems with age discrimination - older people are perceived as boring, less attractive, etc. I knew after I turned 40 that I would have to look for a different career. I'm over 40 and introverted, two huge strikes against me. I knew I had no more options in corporate America, so I went into healthcare.

[Alex]

It is sort of ironic that I find the people who have labeled me as boring incredibly boring themselves(all that superficial talk, excited faces...), but I'mu just too polite to keep my opinion to myself. Strangely, I virtually never feel bored.

[flame]

Thanks radames...I think you may be onto something with my friend. He's not very adventurous at all (even with food) so I guess I would represent some new unchartered territory to him...but he uses self-deprecating humour too much,as a way of putting up a wall of defense, so that he can be the one to put himself down before I do(as he expects I will at some point)...he has quite a sophisticated series of defense mechanisms to break through, and i'm not sure I'm totally up for it just yet?

 As for Innie-Topia...I don't know that Australia is the ideal island...there seems to be just as much ignorance here about introverts, though also acceptance that we are here. I'm not sure about the workplace, though, as my job is pretty much ideal for an innie and I don't really deal with many people at all.

 I was thinking more of one of those really tropical islands with calm turquoise waters and sandy beaches and tree houses etc. But then, Peter Pan was always a fave story of mine.

[newmom2008]

I dated an introverted man for a couple of years, and he was the most fascinating person I've ever met. He could talk about any topic. My friends thought he was dull. I could never understand why. He was a homebody, who didn't go out to parties or socialize. Perhaps people equate this with "dull".

[radames]

Hello all,
I have been doing a bit of traveling for the holidays and needed to recharge after the barrage of stimulation as the average number of people I was around was 20.  Most of these people were loud and even though they were nice I found myself needing to get away after a period of time; even my outgoing wife was looking to spend more time at home after our fourth holiday get-together a couple of days ago.

It seems that we are being "dull" now because we are recovering and we only sit and watch TV, or a movie, and she creates but I appreciate not having to work and just relaxing over the next week off of work that we have.

[Orion]

If I had the investment funds I'd invent an "Introvert Brainograph" that would project colorful images and compositions based on our thought activity. Maybe something related to auras or electromagnetism? We'll show them how exciting we are!! Through thought-art! Ha!  And by the way, just stumbled upon this article, good read!

http://www.brainleadersandlearners.com/general/waves-of-brainpower-and-electricity/

[Orion]

Oh, and then there is this horror story:

http://www.thestar.com/atkinsonseries/atkinson2009/article/720658--aussie-school-tries-to-liberate-teen-brains

While a neat idea, to create a school based on the brain needs of that age development, it seems to "force" socialization as a method of learning. As long as they have an introvert school where the student to teacher ratio is 1:1 and all "classes" are tutor sessions, then I'm fine with this school existing...

(I guess we don't want education to be "boring" right?)