Just cannot stand other people

[Creative]

I was just wondering if anyone feels the same as I do on public transports, or even walking on the road. The person sitting or standing beside me can irritate me for no apprent reason.
 
Does anyone else feel the same? I was just wondering.

Also, I would like to ask how introverted you think you are or the score you have taken on a quiz.

[flame]

I remember the experience you are talking about, though I don't seem to be affected so much these days? When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I was pretty much allergic to people, and noise and subsequently became a bit of a hermit for a few years!
 I even went partially deaf, and I believe to this day that it was my bodies natural response to being overwhelmed by all the noise of the world...and it overproduced earwax, to protect me! I did discover that my grandmother had over-active "wax glands" , so it's possible it was genetic (I didn't even know that sort of thing COULD be genetic?) , but I like to think it was my body helping me cope! It got a bit scary though when I went completey deaf for about 2 months...and I realised that as much as I, at times, envied deaf people...experiencing being deaf made me want to hear again!

 I haven't taken the quiz yet...I don't even know where to go to take the test. I'm not sure where I'd rank...and I'm not sure I want to think of myself as somesort of defined  test result!

[FallenofTrack]

I have a problem with that.  I get annoyed very quickly with people and I often just want to be left alone.  There are very few people who I like to the point that if I am in their company, I don't want them to leave. 

[flame]

Oh I hear you there FoT! In a public context, I seem to have become more tolerant, or at least, not as registering of any annoyance from others...but in private I can only take so much of pretty much everyone!
 If I'm out with a girlfriend, like the other night...there will be particular times in the evening where I will get the urge to literally run away and hide somewhere, even if I am , for the most part, enjoying myself! My friend can be pretty needy at times, and I know she feels rejected when I get this way, but I can't control her responses to my natural desire for alone time, she needs to understand that it has nothing to do with her...and not take it personally, but she isn't there yet!
 It's pretty hairy actually, since she has three kids, one of whom is nearly 2, so she very rarely gets alone time, and I'm sure it eats her up that I have chosen to have no kids so I can enjoy my alone time...though that isn't the only reason I have made this decision. I feel like I have to be so careful not to rub it into her face, when I know she's dying for a break and time to herself! Mothers , I think , are the ultimate example of a person truly appreciating time alone...because they have to really scramble for ANY time to themselves! People without kids have their free time, but they don't always appreciate it as much as those who don't have it in abundance.

[Creative]

I remember the experience you are talking about, though I don't seem to be affected so much these days? When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I was pretty much allergic to people, and noise and subsequently became a bit of a hermit for a few years!


 I haven't taken the quiz yet...I don't even know where to go to take the test. I'm not sure where I'd rank...and I'm not sure I want to think of myself as somesort of defined  test result!

After seeing what you have said, I think I too will grow out of it in time, but I think that I will just register their presence lesser and being able to treat them as invisible rather than get used to them altogether.

Being deaf is a really scary thought. After putting on my earplugs to have a walk near the shops, I realised how much I depended on my hearing.

I never thought of the "being a defined test result" part But I don't think I will like it if people start to classify me according to any test result.

[Creative]

I have a problem with that.  I get annoyed very quickly with people and I often just want to be left alone.  There are very few people who I like to the point that if I am in their company, I don't want them to leave.  

As for me, there are people who I can spend time with without feeling drained. I think that those people are introverts themselves too.

[FallenofTrack]

Oh I hear you there FoT! In a public context, I seem to have become more tolerant, or at least, not as registering of any annoyance from others...but in private I can only take so much of pretty much everyone!
 If I'm out with a girlfriend, like the other night...there will be particular times in the evening where I will get the urge to literally run away and hide somewhere, even if I am , for the most part, enjoying myself! My friend can be pretty needy at times, and I know she feels rejected when I get this way, but I can't control her responses to my natural desire for alone time, she needs to understand that it has nothing to do with her...and not take it personally, but she isn't there yet!
 It's pretty hairy actually, since she has three kids, one of whom is nearly 2, so she very rarely gets alone time, and I'm sure it eats her up that I have chosen to have no kids so I can enjoy my alone time...though that isn't the only reason I have made this decision. I feel like I have to be so careful not to rub it into her face, when I know she's dying for a break and time to herself! Mothers , I think , are the ultimate example of a person truly appreciating time alone...because they have to really scramble for ANY time to themselves! People without kids have their free time, but they don't always appreciate it as much as those who don't have it in abundance.

Yeah, when it comes to someone that I have just met and our paths won't be crossing again, I find that I am open to being in that person's compnay.  This would occur if I meet someone on the bus or just while I am out and about somewhere.  I don't have a problem engaging with that person.  But when I am around people on a continuous basis, that's when it starts to get troublesome.

I have one kid, a daughter, and I understand exactly what you mean about alone time.  That's why if anyone was to ask me my advice about having kids, I would tell that person that he/she really needs to think about his or her personality type and needs and how having kids will affect that.  This is one reason why some people who have kids should not have had kids, because their personality type just doesn't mesh well with having kids.  Before I had my daugher, there was a long period of time when I thought that I was not going to ahve kids because of my personality and temperament.  And truth be told, I am happy that I only have my daughter, because I definitely don't have the kind of energy for another one, and I cherish being able to spend time by myself.

Also, I wanted to add that I have taken a test and I am a highly expressed introvert. I scored abot 90% for the Introvert aspect of my personality.

[Charlie]

I grew up in Boston and being in crowds is easy there.  Everyone pretty much keeps to themselves.

I like to people watch when I go brack to visit.  Like looking into a human aquarium. 

[flame]

I like that too! One of my favourite pass-times actually

[FallenofTrack]

I like to people watch/observe other people. I've learned a lot about other people just from doing that.  I learned a lot about people's personalities.

[shelby]

I have a terrible conflicting personality issue, in that most people, if I spend too much time with them, eventually annoy the sh*t out of me. Conversely, I really hate this about myself and am trying hard to change, to be more accepting, because I feel like a bad person for having these thoughts about people all the time. I hate the intense feelings of guilt and remorse I feel sometimes.

I think I'm mostly like this when I haven't had enough down time - when I have enough time alone to chill out, I'm much better the next time I have to be with people. Alarmingly, though, I'm starting to think I need more time alone to accomplish this than I previously thought - but don't want to turn into a hermit! It's truly a never ending cycle....

[Hidden Wolf]

I think I'm mostly like this when I haven't had enough down time - when I have enough time alone to chill out, I'm much better the next time I have to be with people. Alarmingly, though, I'm starting to think I need more time alone to accomplish this than I previously thought - but don't want to turn into a hermit! It's truly a never ending cycle....

Same here, Shelby. I found this really good definition of introvert/extrovert on this guy's blog. He said that introverts generally prefer a balance between socializing and alone time while extroverts prefer a greater amount of socializing than alone time. Everytime I remember that definition it makes me feel much better about my introversion because when I do have those days, I just see it as an imbalance of my time instead of a bad habit like I used to.

[radames]

I agree with what everyone has said on here.  I like the "blog guy's" conclusion that we are more balanced between socializing and isolating than extroverts.

I recently had a conversation with my wife with whom I enjoy spending my time but I can feel very smothered at times because she is an extrovert.  She has a bit of understanding of my need for alone time however I think that I may not pay enough attention to the subtleties of this need for me.  Everything that requires energy has to have some sort of down time for me and I too often don't give myself the down time that I need and believe myself to be tougher and more resilient than I truly am.

I hardly spend time with anyone else other than my wife's family who lives close by and maybe one or two of her friends (most of whom have become my friends as well).  I suppose I am just better at having friends online rather than in person.

I also really enjoy people-watching when I am out and about in public but we aren't in public that often except for the occasional dinner and spending time with family.  I suppose that my wife is more introverted, or balanced, than she knows.  She says that I have helped her slow down a lot more.  She has helped me be more accepting of others and less anxious around them in public.

[FallenofTrack]

I have a terrible conflicting personality issue, in that most people, if I spend too much time with them, eventually annoy the sh*t out of me. Conversely, I really hate this about myself and am trying hard to change, to be more accepting, because I feel like a bad person for having these thoughts about people all the time. I hate the intense feelings of guilt and remorse I feel sometimes.

I think I'm mostly like this when I haven't had enough down time - when I have enough time alone to chill out, I'm much better the next time I have to be with people. Alarmingly, though, I'm starting to think I need more time alone to accomplish this than I previously thought - but don't want to turn into a hermit! It's truly a never ending cycle....

shelby, I can very much relate to this.  If I am around the same people for long periods of time, on a daily basis, I become highly annoyed, to the point where I feel like screaming. I also have strong feelings of guilt about feeling this way.  Like you, I feel that if I have some down time to just be by myself, then I don't feel annoyed when I am aorund those people again.  But a lot of people don't understand this, so they try to call me out as being hard to get along with or difficult, when really I jsut want some time to think and breathe without being bothered.

[newmom2008]

I was just wondering if anyone feels the same as I do on public transports, or even walking on the road. The person sitting or standing beside me can irritate me for no apprent reason.
 
Does anyone else feel the same? I was just wondering.

They will irritate me usually, ONLY if they talk too loud, whistle or make any other annoying sounds. (Or if they smell bad).