FoT, I agree, everything doesn't have to become a debate. But this is a discussion forum, after all, you can sort of expect that here lol. Do you think I'm just doing it too much? Because I do worry about that since I am aware of how annoying most people find that part of my personality. So even though I love to do it, I try to keep a lid on it so as not to totally alienate the people around me. But I thought it might be more welcome on a discussion forum, especially amongst fellow introverts who I assumed (after reading many books about introversion) would be more into intellectually stimulating things, like debates. I thought my "annoying" threshold would be a little higher here lol. But apparently, it isn't.. which makes me wonder why you and Flame have stuck with me in this whole thread, if you don't find this this type of social intercourse to be as enjoyable as I do?
FoT, what you and your co-worker were doing seems to me to be more about some kind of power strspamle about who's right, not a healthy debate or a spirited exchange of ideas. I think the people who are most resistant to other people's ideas are the ones who are too psychologically invested in their own views to be able to change them. It's too painful, they don?t want to do it, their ego can't let go of it. I've been there and I know how hard it can be to change, especially your core beliefs about yourself. I can?t tell you how many different beliefs I?ve held onto in my 42 years that I?ve had to adjust. It?s not only painful, it?s often humbling and who likes to be humbled?? No one. It totally s*cks lol.
I also learned through this, after spending a lot of years being an emotionally fragile person and walking on eggshells around other emotionally fragile people who couldn't take it if you told them the sky was blue when they say it?s green (just like I never used to be able to take it) that learning how to engage in a healthy debate was the best thing I could do for my own sanity.
