Coping

Introverts need to recharge their energy and take care of their unique temperament in many areas of their lives. Check out these tips.
Recharging
  • Take short rests before you are tired
  • Write in time-outs on your daily calendar
  • Include nature every day, sit in the yard, go for a walk, look at trees or set a soothing outdoor picture on your table
  • Create down time to store energy before any big event
  • Remind yourself its OK to be introverted

At Work

  • Since you may not speak in meetings, write a memo to co-workers/boss afterward with your comments and suggestions
  • Tell your boss you need to think before you can discuss your thoughts
  • Say thank you if someone gives you a compliment
  • Include yourself by coming early to meetings to help set up or clean up afterwards
  • Say hello to people, smile and say thank you to presenters at the end of meetings

Relationships

  • Leave notes for those you care about
  • Talk about your differences based on your temperaments
  • Discuss how to clear up conflicts
  • You have the capacity to enjoy private time
  • Plan for couple and friend time

Socializing

  • Choose which events you want to attend, it’s OK to decline invitations
  • Remind yourself you may feel overstimulated at social gatherings and that is OK
  • Stay on the side-lines and observe before you enter festive occasions
  • Decide when you will arrive and leave, you can always stay longer if you feel peppy enough
  • Wear an interesting piece of jewelry or tie (usually guys) as a conversation starte

Working with Introverted Children

  • Explain introverted qualities to your child
  • Never correct your child in front of others
  • Let them watch before entering an activity
  • Encourage breaks to recharge
  • Realize they need time to think before responding to questions

Books

The Owners Manual For the Brain: Everyday Applications from Mind-Brain Research Pierce J. Howard, Ph.D.
  • Easy to read guidebook on the brain, interesting info on introverts and extroverts

The Gift of Shyness: Embrace Your Shy side and Find Your Soul Mate Dr. Alexander Avila
  • While I'm not personally thrilled with the idea of soul mates, this book has a good attitude toward introversion and shyness, and separates them as two temperament aspects

Successful Selling for Introverts: Achieving sales success without a traditional sales personality Thomas M. Murphy
  • Excellent positive book for innie sales people, emphasizing their strengths and how to use them

Shyness: A Bold New Approach Bernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D.
  • This book promotes “the successfully shy life”-- one of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-confidence. He separates shyness and temperament and gives good tips

News

  1. We welcome any feedback, questions or comments
Featured in Parent Map MagazineMarti is featured in a recent ParentMap magazine article, "Quiet Kids: How to Nurture Your Introverted Child," by Laura Mackenzie.