The Introvert and Extrovert in Love: Making It Work When Opposites Attract

Introvert & Extrovert in LoveThe “Innie” and “Outie” Guide to a Great Relationship

We use the words everyday, but what does it really mean to be an “introvert” or an “extrovert?” And what does it mean to be an introvert in a romantic relationship with an extrovert? Can it work? Surprisingly, psychologists tell us that despite their obvious differences, introverts and extroverts can enjoy a strong, stable–and fun–relationship. The key to introvert/extrovert bliss lies in understanding what makes the other person tick and using your differences to help balance and enrich the relationship.

This book offers advice for making it happen:

  • Learn how “innies” and “outies” process information and communicate differently
  • Discover ways to create a fulfilling social life for yourself and your partner
  • Find creative ways to blend decision-making and future-planning styles
  • Get past the dangerous question, “why can’t you be more like me?”
  • Turn up the heat in the introvert/extrovert bedroom

The book is based on current scientific research and innie/outie interviews. The book is based upon the authors’ personal experiences as a “mixed” couple–introvert Marti Olsen Laney and extrovert Michael Laney have been happily married for more than forty-two years. They must be doing something right!

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Featured in Parent Map MagazineMarti is featured in a recent ParentMap magazine article, "Quiet Kids: How to Nurture Your Introverted Child," by Laura Mackenzie.